Valentine’s Day has, of course, got me thinking about the pros and cons of being single. Who DOESN’T have these thoughts around V-day? Sane people I guess, and those that can deal with not having a boyfriend or girlfriend and just treat Valentine’s Day like it was any other day. And I totes COULD… if everyone around me wasn’t so insane about it.
But I’ve been thinking, and before I say it, let me say this: I do have crushes at the moment. I don’t know where they’re going and it makes me sad at times. I get that longing, stomach-churning feeling when I think about them and I was to just sleep forever and eat chocolate. Other times, I’m so beyond focused on whatever schoolwork, tumblr post (haha) or activity i’m doing over here that I forget crushes even exist. Sound familiar? (I hope so. Otherwise sign me up for the asylum.)
Anyways. My point is that my friend and I developed this… thing where we’re going to just try not to think so much about crushes and things like that, and just LIVE until we can do anything about changing “crush” to something else. I just wanted to say this to all my single friends (or those in relationships that aren’t happy, or WHATEVER):
Stop feeling sorry for yourself, and feel sorry for the boys.
Yes, feel sorry for the boys (or girls). Stop feeling sorry for yourselves, and feel sorry for those poor, poor people.
Because they’re never going to know what a great person that you are. They are missing the fuck out of your life, and it’s their fault. Those poor people. I can’t even imagine how they must feel sometimes. They don’t know what a fun, sweet, hilarious, smart, and compassionate person they could have met and found delight in. They won’t know your secrets or get your inside jokes, and they won’t ever get to discover what a terrible driver or fantastic singer you are. They won’t have a person who’d make them soup if they were sick, or someone who would pick them up off the ground if they fell every time they kept trying. They won’t have a friend like you, an advice giver like you, a shoulder like you, or a beautiful picture of you. They just won’t HAVE you, and that’s that.
I know everyone hears it all the time: It’s their loss, blah blah blah, there are people who will appreciate you. And let’s be honest, that never really makes any of us feel better. But I just want people to know that it is true, and we should do our best this V-Day to send our good vibes to those less fortunate.